Random Updates

I know I didn’t update for some time. A few cool things happened recently.

I am finally done with this guy whom I wasn’t sure if I was actually dating (or not) for the last couple of months but we are officially dunzo. This means I can really open my heart out to the rest of the free men in the world and it’s a great feeling!

I was online chatting with this man and you know how one should be wary of this online business so I assumed a fake name. A few days after we started chatting on MSN, he suddenly asked if I had another name in the past and blurted out my real name! Turned out that I met him about 10 years ago … we even went for the movie ‘Fight Club‘ together and had dinner once near my house. Seriously, I can’t remember any of these! I did remember going for the movie but I have no recollection of who I went with but anyway, it is a strange feeling trying to re-acquaint myself with a person I supposedly knew a long time ago.

Now that the world seemed brighter this morning when I woke up, I suddenly wanted to change the way I did some things.
1. For one, I’ll like to say “Lovely to meet you” instead of “Nice to meet you” when being introduced to someone new.
2. I’ll like to add more vegetables to my yong tau foo soup for lunch.
3. I’ll like to try sleeping at 11 p.m. from now on, about 2 hours earlier from the time I usually sleep.
4. I’ll like to drink increase my daily amount of water intake. I haven’t been drinking enough for a long time.
5. I’ll like to try to be less awkward to strangers. I always had this problem with strangers till I get to know them better.
6. I’ll like to try smoking less of course.
7. Learn to let go.

Just these 7 things for now till I think of more.

To Stick Your Finger Where It Doesn’t Belong

I’ve had this revelation recently, watching my neighbour’s youngest daughter unwittingly stick her finger into a door knob and got stuck. It was an arduous process, really. Being young and afraid of pain, once her finger was stuck, she gave up trying, asking help from her siblings who then came running to my dad watching television in the living room.

As I stood watching the locksmith extricate the knob from the door, it was clear that the rest was up to the little girl. There is not going to be anything the doctor can do and sawing was out of the question since the little finger is in peril. Her anxious father poured oil over the finger and encouraged her to ease it out slowly but everytime she felt a little pain, she slumped back and gave up. Three grown men stood hovering over her – one decidedly nervous (her father), one concerned but amused (my father) and one sarcastic (the locksmith). If not for the fact that it would be improper to giggle, I would find the whole scene comical. Least when expected, the little finger suddenly came free of the door knob, reasonably well-oiled but none for the worst. I was thinking: Do not stick your finger where it doesn’t belong.

Almost immediately, I thought of Jack Horner whose thumb was in the pie and I thought of myself, wondering if I have, metaphorically, been cast in the same situation. Have I been sticking my finger into where I don’t belong?

The man is not yours and not for you. Do not insist on sticking your finger in where it doesn’t belong because it will hurt and it takes a lot of pain before you are smart enough to extricate yourself from further hurt. You make the people around you worried but yet the only person you can help yourself is you. Tempting as it is to create a little drama out of curiosity, the aftermath is usually not so pleasant. I’ll now leave the little girl be and hope that one day she has the same epiphany as me.